What does a healthy relationship even look like? Am I capable of having one? At Les Ladies, we believe everyone is both deserving and capable of healthy, loving relationships, and we’d like to better equip you to do so.
In fact, we’re going to let the cat out of the bag and give you some really key information right here, right now, in this newsletter!
Let’s take red flags for example. We’re so used to thinking about this in terms of the other person. That’s a losing game. It keeps the focus on the other person. But what if you used your own responses as an indicator of red flags—things worthy of reflection in yourself as well as the relationship? Here are some examples:
When I need to repeat verbal boundaries
It's a red flag to feel a need to repeat a verbal boundary that’s already been made clear. Perhaps you start making excuses for the other person instead of holding them accountable. Instead, consider that this person may not be a healthy match for you.
When I start feeling I’m crazy
When your experience isn’t matching what the other person is telling you and you start to doubt or question your own experience or feelings. You may be experiencing gas lighting.
When I start telling little white lies
In order to avoid conflict or unpleasant conversation or fear or consequences, you start lying. It doesn’t seem like a big deal at the time. But you need to ask yourself why you’re lying. Are you afraid of the other person’s reaction? Time to examine that and reflect on whether it’s a relationship you feel safe in and what's driving that feeling.
Or perhaps you lie to gain a sense of control over something, like to avoid losing the relationship or being in a vulnerable position. Time to examine how you can let go of control. What you are doing may be a form of gas lighting.
When I keep holding on to potential while ignoring reality
Let’s face it, no relationship is perfect. It takes hard work. Holding on to potential is often a good thing. But when reality is consistently a different, negative experience, it’s time to consider letting that relationship go.
When I lose touch with friends and activities that brought me joy
This is a sign that you are sacrificing yourself and your happiness and pinning it on your relationship, which is not healthy for all kinds of reasons, e.g., co-dependency, allowing yourself to be controlled, operating out of fear of upsetting the other person, etc.
Do any of these resonate with you?
Awareness is half the battle! In Healthy Love, we help you think differently—in a way that optimizes your chances of having healthy, loving relationships--and provide you with tools to support that new way of thinking.
Our next six week masterclass is Healthy Love and starts Wed, July 20, 2022, 7:30-9 pm eastern, 4:30-6 pm pacific, goes for 6 weeks and ends on August 24, 2022.
If you want to prepay for all six masterclasses in the Love Essentials program, you can do that. If you want to do a monthly subscription starting with Healthy Love, you can do that. If it's not working out for you, just cancel your subscription.
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We only want to work with women who are absolutely committed to building loving, conscious relationships.
The program is limited to 30 women.
What makes Love Essentials different?
1. Co-Facilitated by a Master Certified Coach and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker
2. Weekly Reflection Partners
3. A committed conscious community to inspire and support you
4. The latest in theory that is grounded in practice
5. Changing the way you think to get different results
a. Creating action plans for making the changes you want to see
b. Giving you tools and models that you can use on your own
c. Slides and worksheets for future use
6. Recordings and relevant info all in one place
7. Private chat feature to reach all class participants
8. Other events in the Les Ladies community for socializing and fun
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At Les Ladies, we believe that:
Creating a community of women is key. One that feels safe and one that encourages you to be all of who you can be.
Everyone can learn how to find, create and maintain deeply satisfying, healthy, soul-expansive, loving relationships.
It all starts with self-awareness and self-love.
Personal commitment and the support of other amazing women accelerates your growth and development.
We're all in this together!
Yes, I want and deserve Healthy Love!!
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